In my leadership seminars and workshops, managers often come to me with the same complaint:  “Every time I set out to reach a goal, something stops me. I think I’m aiming too high.”  When we start to analyze their challenge, we come to a realization that it isn’t their goals that are unattainable, but something in their mindset is holding them back. I find most people stop taking action, not because they don’t know what they’re doing, but because someone or something along the way told them they can’t do it. If you’re going to reach your goals, you must mentally be prepared to fight the mental battle within.

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3 Mental Barriers That are Stopping Your Success

 

1. Lose the victim mentality. Stop blaming everything around you for your dreams not working out. Such as your spouse, your children, your finances or the economy. Take it upon yourself to find a new path and make it happen. Victims often say, “There are just no opportunities for me to do this right now.” Victor’s see it differently. Victors don’t wait for opportunities. They create possibilities where they don’t even exist.

2. Develop your skills. When you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s easy to feel that you’re not capable. So in order to develop the confidence to reach your goals, you must first develop the skills to reach your goals. If you have to take a course, watch a youtube video, read a blog or listen to a podcast, do whatever you can to develop the skills that will take you to your destination. Developing the skills for the goal you’re after reframes your mind from, “Oh no I can’t”, to “Oh yes I can!”

3. Be prepared for the obstacles. Every leader faces obstacles. The difference between average and great leaders is that great leaders prepare for any obstacles ahead of time. They think ahead to what may possibly set them back and are ready to design another path to get there. Above all, they don’t let obstacles stop them from taking action.

 

(If you’re a serial procrastinator, I have a FREE ebook on the Top 10 Ways to Beat Procrastination & Get Stuff Done!)


About Betsy: Featured on FOX, CBS, NBC, and ABC, Betsy Allen-Manning is a high-energy leadership keynote speaker, high-performance expert, and workplace culture strategist who helps organizations develop world-class leaders, build high-performing teams, and create workplaces where people stay, grow, and thrive. She’s the creator of the DNA of Excellence™ keynote series: data-backed and highly interactive presentations that strengthen leadership behavior, elevate performance, and transform workplace culture. Betsy is also the founder of Destination Workplace™, an award-winning leadership training company in Dallas, known for advancing leadership excellence and transforming workplace culture for some of the world’s most elite brands.

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